Asyik2 topik kahwin haha

Hari tu chatting dengan Nur Syafiqah Sulaiman and had a real fun chatting with her. Most of the topics supposed to be remained as secrets =P hanye kami yang tau hehe~

Neway, one of the topic at that night was about marriage. I don't know why but most of the girls at my current age are really eager and love to talk about marriage. It's about time I guess. Not really the time to settle down, but it's about time to have more knowledge about marriage. It's about time to do more observations towards married couples in order to prepare ourselves for our future marriage.

I asked my dear best friend, what's her opinion about marriage? Quite shocking answer I got from her. Well, she don't really fancy marriage, that much. I don't really wanna blame her, I guess. She has her own reasons for that. After hearing her thought about that, I guess, marriage kind of scaring me too.

She said to me one of the reason is she's afraid of the inlaws that once we think that they're angelic good, turn out to be very monstrous, very very monstrous. Oh, aku sangat faham perasaan itu. Erkk. Aku pun cuak sebenarnya. Skang nie ok la tak penah lagi berhadapan dengan keluarga ipar duai nie. Tp once da kawen, kene mengadap mereka oo. Cuak satu la kan, kalu dapat mak mertua yang tak ngam ngan kita. Dapat mak mertua yang fikir anak dia tuh hak milik dia, and I need to share him with her. Adoii kalu dapat, memang tatau la. Bukan nak nafikan hak dia sebagai ibu, tapi mau nya dapat yang jenis ape2 kena ikot ckp dia, mmg naya la. Contoh kot ye dia kata tak boleh beli umah sendiri, kene dok kat umah dia, sampai beranak pinak pun dok umah dia lagi. Adoyaii memang naya la. Mau lak kalu anak dia pun jenis yang betul2 ikot ckp mak. Serius bukan nak nafikan hak seorang mak kat anak. Sebab walau ape jadik pun, untuk lelaki, ibu tetap nombor satu, even lepas kawen. Tapi hopefully kalu dapat mak mertua yang boleh tolak ansur, seriously fine. Kalu tak, nanges la aku. Pe lagi haha~ Pastu kena lak jenis ipar duai yang suka memulau tuh. Lagi ler. Abeh kena pulau.

Pastu, lagi satu reason yang buat cuak tuh, antara isu yang kami kaum perempuan sangat2 takut kalu btul2 jadi. Husband berubah perangai lepas kahwin. Sebelum kahwin memang laa, i love you, you love me too. Riang ria hari2, dunia kita yang punya. Tapi takut lepas kahwin, tetiba sang lelaki berubah perangai. I love you, but you don't really love me too. Tetiba husband berubah perangai, jadi kaki pukul pulak. And worst of all, lelaki curang lepas kahwin. Once aku penah dengar, perkahwinan itu satu perjudian. We never know what will happen lepas kita kahwin. Lagi2 kalu yang ditinggal digantung tak bertali tuh, menangis mmg takde lagu ah

Neway, tuh hanye laa sikit yang dpt aku senarai. Banyak lagi sebenarnya. Biasa la asam garam rumah tangga. Belum lagi dapat aku paham. Yang kawan aku sorang nie da sampai keluar statement yang dia terpikir nak amek anak angkat jek nanti. Kalu boleh. Sebab da sangat takut dengan citer2 yang didengari keliling recently. Belum masuk bab divorce agi tuh. Tapi aku nasihat lah kat dia, sebab tuh kalu nak kahwin, jangan nak kahwin sebab nafsu. Islam dah suruh kita cari atas agamanya. Insya Allah, everything will turn out to be okay. Dia pun kata, kalu ada lelaki yang mampu bukak hati dia, memang dia nak kahwin.

Aku pulak, of course terfikir nak kahwin jugak. But not now I guess. Will be thinking of settling down mungkin lepas grad kot. Banyak agi dreams yang nak aku achieve. Tapi kalu sampai jodoh awal, why not. Well, recently ni pun aku tak bape pikir pasal kahwin kot. Terlampau banyak tanggungjawab nak dipegang lepas kahwin. Need to prepare myself very well before that time comes.

Aku serius tak menentang perkahwinan. Nabi tak mengaku umat kalu kita ckp xmo kahwin. Untuk perkahwinan sekarang, mungkin agak terlalu awal kot. Tapi bila dah sangat stress dengan study tuh, kuar jugak kat mulut cakap nak kahwin =P